The Cruising Life: Women’s Perspectives. Part 17: Your Most Embarrassing Moment

Fewer people responded to this question, even anonymously. I guess most people can’t think of anything embarrassing or have blocked it from their minds so they didn’t have to think about it (I’m sure I’ve done that one myself!) but here you have it, a few stories that will perhaps make you feel a little bit better about your own mistakes… or maybe realize that you aren’t the only one or maybe even that you don’t have to be embarrassed at all! 🙂

**The photos in this story are free stock images from Pic Jumbo

What is your most embarrassing story?

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Anonymous: I was embarrassed when my husband treated me like I didn’t know anything in front of our friends. We had a couple of long time friends join us on our boat for a holiday weekend to our boat when we had only been living aboard for about 7 months. I thought it would be a fun time with friends that we hadn’t seen in a while. Instead my husband acted like I was a silly woman who just made life harder for him. Whenever he had to do something that he considered manly, he’d laugh off my help, even though when we’re alone, I help or do more than my fair share of the work. He made several rude, sexist comments over the course of the three days that seemed really out of character for him, but I didn’t want to fight in front of company, so I just tried to let it go. By the end of the weekend, it was all I could do not to push him overboard or just leave him and the boat. Our friends were obviously uncomfortable by the end of the trip and made a quick exit. My husband still refuses to admit that he did anything wrong. It was completely humiliating to be treated that way at all, but especially in front of our friends.

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Anonymous:  I guess falling in the water from the dinghy? But everyone has done that, I think. I’m sure I’ve said some ridiculous things in my limited Spanish, but no one has called me out on it. Yet. I’m working on it!

CJ @SVRagnarok Most embarrassing story… hmmm. Probably trying to dock.

Anonymous: Most embarrassing moment – fending off another boat at 2am topless when they drifted at anchor – jumped out of bed when we heard the knock – only enough time to grab knickers, the other guy loved it!! LOL


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Anonymous: Funny tummy…let loose all over the saloon, throw rugs and poor hubby cleaned up. Mortified!

Jenny @SVRocketScience  I generally have trouble remembering faces and names (or the combination of both). Meeting so many new people in each new places has led to some embarrassing situations. Like, we met a nice couple in Charleston, SC. She had a store in our spring home in Maine. I was there by myself, so I decided to go say hello. her employees told me she was in a meeting, so I left. A few days later, I had forgotten all about it, a lady approached me on the dock telling me she came looking for me the other day, and it was so nice to see me again, and I had absolutely no clue who she was.I must have seemed rude, because I didn’t know how to answer. Only later did it dawn on me, she was the lady we met in SC. I was so embarrassed! (Hey Johanna, if you are reading this – I’m really sorry!!)

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Anonymous: After nearly a year on the boat, we had the chance to meet up with some friends on vacation. Although I don’t worry too much about my wardrobe during day to day life on the boat, I do like to dress nicely for events outside of the typical cruising life. I put extra care into my outfit, pulling my nice clothes out of storage a day early to air out for the meet up. I was so embarrassed when the first words out of my friends mouth were, “Oh my! You smell like a boat!” Now in hindsight, she didn’t mean anything bad by it, but I felt embarrassed and very self conscious about it for the entire evening. I suppose I need to find some better storage options for my clothes.


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Nike @WhiteSpotPirates  I woke up one morning on my friends parents’ boat after a night of a couple of too many drinks and my friend’s father woke me up saying “Nike, your boat dragged and is sitting on a reef!” My first thought was that he was kidding, but by the look of his face I could tell rather soon that he was not… The wind had not been super strong that night, but the anchor bay had quite bad holding and luckily my boat had not hit any other boat on its nightly sleep walk. But having to dinghy over there and get it off the sandbank was definitely the most embarrassing thing in my whole cruising time so far.


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Byn @OhSailYes Oh… embarrassing stories? I probably have a top ten list somewhere in my brain, but I’ve blocked most of them out of self preservation!

I’m not sure if this counts as embarrassing or just infuriating. At the time, it was a little bit of both. When we were first moving onto our boat (literally at a public dock, carting our stuff from our trailer onto our boat) a man came up and started chatting. No matter how much I tried to point out that we were a little busy, he just kept chatting. Then he felt the need to say, “Well, at least you’ll lose some weight by living on a boat. Sailors can’t be fat.” I was at a loss. I’m obviously not thin by any means, but what the hell? “Yeah, he says, I bet you’ll lose at least 80 pounds. Don’t worry, a year from now you’ll be thin and be getting guys whistling at you wherever you go. Yeah, sailing is great for that!” I was embarrassed AND pissed off. He even repeated himself at least twice more with, “Yeah, I bet you’ll be hot if you lose 80 pounds or so.” “You won’t be able to keep all that weight on if you’re a sailor.”**

Then my daughter came back (and she is certainly NOT fat!) and he said something similar to her. Then came my proud moment, because unlike me, she had a witty come back. Hers was more like, “Oh, well I guess it’s a good thing that I don’t give a sh*t what guys think about my body, isn’t it?”

I think I was honestly more embarrassed that I couldn’t even think of a sarcastic retort, because generally that’s my strong suit. **Note: Being a “sailor” doesn’t automatically make you lose weight.

Then there was the ‘awesome’ time I had a complete panic attack/melt down when the boat was hauled out. I haven’t even had a panic attack at any other time on the boat… even in rough seas, but when it was on the hard and I climbed up on deck? I was embarrassed that my daughter had to see me in complete hysterics, crying and sobbing and just unable to function like a normal person. I was even more embarrassed that I never did get the courage to try to go up again. I stayed in a hotel or slept in the car the rest of the week that we were hauled out. I hate it when I come across something I can’t handle… especially with witnesses and ESPECIALLY in front of my kids. I felt stupid and ridiculous in the moment, but it was a physical reaction that I couldn’t seem to get past. In hind sight I’m fine about both instances, but at the time I was embarrassed.


vibratorAnonymous:  We had an extra crew member on board and he and my husband were pulling cables through the deck to the breaker panel, the cables punch through above our bed and while rummaging around in my clothes the extra crew member set off my vibrator. He screamed and panicked because he couldn’t shut off, he had to seek out my husband to help him turn it off. I heard about that one for a long time and the poor guy couldn’t look me in the eye for the rest of his stay.

Editors Note:

**The photos in this story are free stock images from Pic Jumbo

A lot of cruising women were awesome enough to contribute to this blog series about women who are living/lived the cruising life. Whether they’ve been cruising for 6 months or 30 years, these are the perspectives of various women from different parts of the world. I know I’m already learning from their stories, I hope you can learn something new as well! I’ll be posting a question from this series every Wednesday and Friday for the 10 week series, so keep an eye out for our posts! The topics range in topic from typical cruising questions, to more personal anonymous stories that might make you feel like you’ve met a kindred spirit.

See the other posts in this series:

Part 1: What Makes it Worth it?

Part 2: What Would You do Differently?

Part 3: What has been your most surprising experience?

Part 4: Where Would You Revisit?

Part 5: What is Your Favorite Physical Activity Onboard?

Part 6: What were the biggest struggles for you in your first year? How did you deal with them to get through?

Part 7: What Technology is Essential for You?

Part 8: What is your best piece of advice for people who are getting ready to take off on a cruising adventure?

Part 9: What has been your scariest moment?

Part 10: Budget Friendly Tips?

Part 11: Best Social Media Tips?

Part 12: Your Best Life Hacks for the Boat

Part 13: Your Favorite Photo

Part 14: How Did Cruising Affect Your Marriage/Relationship?

Part 15: Let’s Talk About Sex

Part 16: What are the Hard Parts?

Part 17: What has been your Most Embarrassing Moment?

Part 18: How Do You Deal with Loneliness?

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